First, let me congratulate you on having an otherwise satisfying sexual relationship with your boyfriend. Now let's see if we can't help you find a way to make it as satisfying as you would like. There are a few things you don't say here, so I'm going to make some assumptions. First, that your boyfriend was in your life pre-hysterectomy; second, that you can't experience orgasm during sexual intercourse but you can experience orgasm with other forms of sensual and sexual stimulation; and third, that you had your uterus and cervix removed, but not your ovaries, since your sexual desire doesn't seem to be affected. Removing the ovaries significantly decreases a woman's production of testosterone, a key hormone involved in sexual desire or libido. There is some evidence that removing the uterus and cervix, as is done during a total hysterectomy, can affect the quality and intensity of orgasm.
Surgery Can Affect a Woman’s Sex Life
G-Spot After Hysterectomy: Guide to Orgasm Post-Op
Many women are concerned about the effect that hysterectomy, with or without oophorectomy, will have on sexual response. This is probably an individual response and has not been proved in studies. In addition, if the ovaries are removed, hormone levels drop sharply, and that can affect sexual feelings:. I had a hysterectomy two years ago at the age of
Does Hysterectomy Affect the G-Spot, and Other Questions About Sex Without a Uterus
The prevailing view in the literature is that hysterectomy improves the quality of life. This is based on claims that hysterectomy alleviates pain dyspareunia and abnormal bleeding , and improves sexual response. However, we note that almost all the papers we found reported that some of the women in their studies claim that hysterectomy is detrimental to their sexual response. Since clitoral sensation via pudendal and genitofemoral nerves should not be affected by hysterectomy, this surgery would not diminish sexual response in women who prefer clitoral stimulation. However, women whose preferred source of stimulation is vaginal or cervical would be more likely to experience a decrement in sensation and consequently sexual response after hysterectomy, because the nerves innervating those organs -- pelvic, hypogastric and vagus -- are more likely to be damaged or severed in the course of hysterectomy.