A searchable database of the laws, people, organizations, and litigation involved in sexual and reproductive health and justice in the United States. I am bisexual and my girlfriend and I are planning on having sex for the first time. We cannot easily define what sex is or is not for all people, because when we try and do that, we usually wind up leaving out a whole lot of people and their sexual experiences. For example, you might not say that sex is having your neck rubbed, if I feel sexual while I someone is doing that to me, my partner feels sexual while doing it, and I reach orgasm that way, to boot, how is that not sex?
For Queer Women, What Counts as Losing Your Virginity?
I Lost My Virginity To The Woman Who Raped Me | Thought Catalog
After I hooked up with someone, I snuck out of bed and into the darkness of my balcony, alone. Hoping for an answer, I texted: Am I still a virgin if I had sex with a girl? She, as the older, long-time queer in the hookup, had the upper hand. After all, what did I know about the rules of girl-on-girl sex, let alone what counts as losing your virginity? Could it be sex if only half of the people involved thought it was? It was a panic I never expected to feel.
I Lost My Virginity To The Woman Who Raped Me
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Illustration by Shawna X. It should come as no surprise to Broadly readers that most of the world is organized around men. A man, Jacques Derrida, even created the word to express the idea: phallogocentrism. In short, the phallus defines the world, and for millennia it has defined sex.